Be impeccable with your words…… and be self-aware when you are communicating. The truth must be told in a way that people can hear it. How you communicate always says so much more about you, then it does about them. Some people just open their mouth and speak….and in their world it is up to the people around them to make their way through the mine field of their communications, and uncover their true intent. They slice and dice with their words, with no thought given to the effect they create. They have not understood that their words can either build someone up….or tear them down. They have not realized the power of their words.
So we must all strive to get to our next level of spiritual and emotional growth. We must realize that the only one in charge of our communications, is us. We alone make the choices of which words we will choose to communicate with….and we are responsible for ensuring that we maintain the self-esteem of people when we communicate with them. At times we can become emotional or angry about something….that is not the time to choose your words. That is the time to think twice and speak once before you engage with anyone. When you act compassionately, you’re literally directing your power outward, like a beam of light that supports and uplifts the other person. Give freely of yourself….but make it with kindness and with loving thoughts, words, and deeds. Putting love into the mix, ensures that people will hear the message.
Iyanla Vanzant said “Most people are open to hearing the truth when it is said in a way they can hear it. People cannot hear you when you make them wrong. People cannot hear you when you attack their weaknesses. Do not make the mistake of believing that the people you speak to do not know what you really mean. They do! If you want to ensure that people will hear you when you talk about difficult or uncomfortable situations, speak to them from your heart. Speak to them from a place of compassion and concern. See them as the part of yourself that does not like to be wrong, does not like to be criticized, does not like to be cut to shreds in the process of learning.”
By Lisa Scott Executive/Life Coach