There can be no external joy………..until you do the inside work. Sometimes we get feedback and our initial reaction is to reject it and then proceed to defend and justify mode or we just disengage from the conversation.
There is both an art and a science to the skill of giving feedback and it is difficult to hear it sometimes when it is artless in its delivery; still the feedback that make us angry or conjures other emotions, no matter how poorly delivered, usually contains elements of truth. With maturity and wisdom we develop the ability to hear what we have to, and to take the nugget rather than focus on the delivery.
While personal excellence does stem from having impeccable interpersonal skills; the fact is you will probably be exposed to several people who have mastered neither the art nor the science of delivering feedback in a motivating way. At times feedback is difficult for us to internalize and we need time to reflect and understand how we will evolve and grow from that moment. So the next time someone says something that you don’t want to hear…………listen.
Marianne Williamson said ~“It takes courage…to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.”