Be careful how you tell your life stories……..they become the script for your life. Listen carefully …..when you share defining moments, when you refer to pivotal people and the impact they had on you. Do you bring drama and emotion to your stories? Do you freeze them in time as if nothing has changed from one generation to another? Are your stories rife with raw emotion that seems to show up in negative language and a poor me attitude….. then chances are, you are living in the past and dwelling on bad feelings. While we cannot change what has happened, we can change how we think about it and how we speak to others about it. Otherwise we are punishing ourselves in the present moment for something that happened so long ago.
We must love and approve of ourselves in the present moment….because the amount of self love that we have, directly impacts our life, the quality of our relationships, and our ability to forge ahead and live a life of excellence. So don’t be overly critical of yourself, don’t lock yourself into behaviours and patterns that are destructive and keep you in a holding pattern. Seek to understand your emotions and how they impact your ability to love yourself unconditionally; be more gentle with yourself and bring your heart and love to all that you do. Finally, always remember that someone is listening and learning from your story……and how you tell it. With such power…..make sure your stories are infused with love.
Louise Hay said “Resentment, criticism, guilt, and fear – these four things cause the major problems in our bodies and in our lives. These feelings come from blaming others and not taking responsibility for our own experiences. You see, if we are all responsible for everything in our lives, then there is no one else to blame. Whatever is happening out there, is only a mirror of our own inner thinking. If you find yourself saying “everyone always does such and such to me, criticises me, is never there for me, then this is YOUR pattern. There is some thought in you that attracts people who exhibit this behaviour…when you no longer think that way, they will go elsewhere and do that to somebody else.”