You grow to the extent that you give……….and you cannot receive from others what you do not give to them. When we give we make more room for ourselves to grow on the inside and when we treat people well we give them space to grow into their best selves. In essence we train people by how we treat them…..show them respect, believe in them, encourage them and they will respond in kind. To lead people, we must let them know that we are behind them. It is the responsibility of all leadership to make it difficult for others to do wrong, and easy to do things well.
Sometimes in crisis we tend to tighten the control, give less, catch people doing things wrong more, and none of these actions are designed to bring about the desired results. If you want to motivate those around you to be better and achieve more then they need to know that you believe in them, through encouragement, positive engagement, and with an anything is possible attitude. Whenever something is missing in life……take inventory of yourself, have you given, have you made deposits in the people who you care about and rely upon? If not then you get what you give………
Stephen R. Covey said “We all know what a financial bank account is. We make deposits into it and build up a reserve from which we can make withdrawals when we need to. An emotional bank account is a metaphor that describes the amount of trust that’s been built up in a relationship. It’s the feeling of safeness you have with another human being. If I make deposits into an emotional bank account with you through courtesy, kindness, honesty, and keeping my commitments to you. I build up a reserve. “