Always do your best……lean into your discomfort. It’s in our DNA – fight or flight. Invariably we will try to avoid pain, discomfort, risk, and new ideas. Anything that is unfamiliar or makes us feel vulnerable will simultaneously produce fear and then flight. So, it takes significant courage to lean in when you’re feeling uncertain about the future. It will take every part of you to stay in the arena of life when everything seems to be saying run. It will take all the personal integrity you can muster to be with people who attack, judge, and label your actions. You will need to be very brave when it comes to new adventures and chapters in your life. If allowed to, uncertainty will make safe decisions, decisions that won’t stretch you, that won’t allow you to be all that you can be.
Just because we are adults, doesn’t mean that we have stopped learning. We stop learning because we have decided that our education and knowledge are a destination versus a life long journey. Every now and then the universe will hold the mirror up to your life. The question we must all ask, is do I have the courage to look in the mirror? Will I be willing to bravely step into the future, and learn new things, and new ways of being by making my own path, or will I take the safe path? The one that is well travelled and worn. Standing in your power is a combination of living a life that honours your values and knowing that true belonging is about loving yourself enough to brave the times when you must stand alone. Change is unavoidable and inevitable. Patience with life and ourselves helps us to accept the truth of transience.
Brene Brown said “Belonging so fully to yourself that you’re willing to stand alone is a wilderness – an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching. It is a place as dangerous as it is breathtaking, a place as sought after as it is feared. But it turns out to be the place of true belonging , and it’s the bravest and most sacred place you will ever stand. The special courage it takes to experience true belonging is not just about braving the wilderness, it’s about becoming the wilderness. It’s about breaking down the walls, abandoning our ideological bunkers, and living from our wild heart rather than our weary heart. True belonging is not passive. It’s a practice that requires us to be vulnerable, get uncomfortable, and learn how to be present with all people, without sacrificing who we are.”
By Lisa Scott Executive Life Coach