Thought of the Day

Always do your best……..don’t take things personally. Someone else’s bad mood,  or poor choice of words, has nothing to do with you. Sometimes we can’t help ourselves, we get on that slippery slope of taking things personally and we absorb all the energy of someone else’s choices. We ostensibly agree with them and allow their words to hurt and diminish our sense of self. During these moments, we must enlist our discipline to work for us. We must imagine that we are Teflon. Because if we allow someone who is not being impeccable with their words to take away our power and to make us feel that we are not enough, we are participating in our own abuse. We must always remember that we experience what we tolerate.

 So establishing boundaries with people is integral to our personal success. We must love ourselves enough, and have strong self-esteem so that we are clear about what is ok or not ok when it comes to communication. There are some who walk among us who have no self-awareness. They cannot hold the mirror up to themselves objectively, because ego stands in the way of accepting responsibility for their actions and their communications. So we must hold the mirror up for them. We must help them to see what we experience when we are with them and then teach them to fill the world with sunshine. If we can learn to react to life’s adversities, with grace, humour, and a positive attitude then we are unstoppable.  

Don Miguel Ruiz said “Whatever people do, feel, think, or say, don’t take it personally. Others are going to have their own opinion according to their belief system, so whatever they think about you is not about you. But it is about them. You gain a huge amount of freedom when you take nothing personally. No spell can affect you regardless of how strong it may be..When you see other people as they are without taking it personally you can never be hurt by what they say or do. Even if others lie to you. It is okay. They are lying to you because they are afraid you will discover that they are not perfect. To have great faith is to have great power. Because your intent, your will is undivided. When your word isn’t dissipated by doubt, the power of your word becomes even stronger.”

By Lisa Scott Executive Life Coach