Always do your best……..be aware of when you are being judgmental. If you find yourself starting too many sentences with he/she should then you are in judgement mode. The use of the word should suggests that the person was wrong and you are right. Oh how the ego feeds us. We all have the right to have values, morals, and beliefs – we live in a free place. We do not have the right to impose our beliefs on those around us and that is exactly what you do when you judge. There is a moral superiority that sneaks into our minds and vocabulary if we let judgement reign supreme. In these moments we must realize that we have become too attached to our own beliefs and we are not sharing them, rather we are imposing them on those around us. We all make mistakes and life lets us recover……let those around you recover too.
Sadly, your opinion of another person affects how you treat them and what you expect of them. Believe it or not, how you see people, actually has very little to do with them. Your views, your perceptions, your opinions, and your judgements all stem from you. Inside us is either a gentle place that accepts people as we find them, or a place of judgement that passes our expectations of ourselves to those around us. So attune yourself to people’s soul – release the wants of your personality in order to accommodate and encourage others. In your daily interactions look beyond what you think about someone and you will feel their need for love and support. Make a commitment to move beyond the fears and judgements of your personality and place your energy into realizing that we are here to help each other grow into our greatness.
Julia Seton said “We have no more right to put our discordant states of mind into the lives of those around us and rob them of their sunshine and brightness than we have to enter their houses and steal their possessions.”
By Lisa Scott Executive/Life Coach