Assume nothing…….when you make assumptions they become your truth. In fact when we make assumptions; we establish beliefs and then we share them, we defend them, and we make judgments about someone…..based only on assumptions not on facts, nor the observation of behaviour, just our minds connecting all the dots.
Sharing assumptions is like sharing poison because then everyone takes on those beliefs. At the root of making assumptions is a lack of trust……when you know someone you must use that knowledge to think the best of them, you must communicate your expectations, and you must decide to always trust them…..trust is a decision, a reflection of what you have decided to believe.
Trust is not about people demonstrating their support for you by joining in your judgments. It is about your ability to stand your ground and rely on your abilities to trust the process of life. Anytime you make assumptions and judge others it is always more of a reflection of your feelings about yourself…..or you would not be able to conjure up those assumptions.
Don Miguel Ruiz said “In any kind of relationship we can make the assumption that others know what we think….and we don’t have to say what we want. We assume they are going to do what we want because they know us so well. If they don’t do what we want, we feel hurt and think how could you do that, you should know. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. If all humans would communicate with impeccability of the word , all of our relationships would change.”