Always do your best………treat yourself with kindness and respect. Usually when there is an area of pain in our lives; it is because we are reacting to a situation rather than deliberately choosing how we will respond. Mixed emotions are behind most patterns of self-sabotage, and they limit the amount of real joy that we can experience. It is said that you experience what you tolerate……and even when we set limits on the kind of behaviour and treatment that we will accept from others, our mixed emotions prevent us from drawing our line in the sand. We allow people to treat us in ways that our heart tells us are wrong…….and we hold onto something that cuts us off from life.
So today, take inventory, survey your life. Identify the areas that are dysfunctional, challenged, or simply not as you would like them to be and think about the actions that you need to take in order to turn them around. One of our greatest challenges in creating the kind of life we desire is taking responsibility for what we do and how we do it. As long as you point the finger at someone or something else, you are not taking responsibility. While it is true that things happen, it is your responsibility to determine how and how long they affect you. Just as you cannot exercise your way out of a bad diet, you cannot sit idly hoping that your circumstances will change, only you can do that…..just imagine if you put as much effort into changing your life as you do into complaining about some aspect of it.
Dr Wayne Dyer said “If you find yourself being treated in a way you resent or that turns you into a victim, ask yourself this question. What have I done to teach this person that this behaviour is something I’m willing to tolerate? When you get enough inner peace and feel really positive about yourself, it’s almost impossible for you to be controlled and manipulated by anybody else.”