Think for yourself…….and choose to be in places and with people who value the opinions and ideas of others. We are all a product of our upbringing and the influences we had as children; we are also influenced by the people we work with, and by the company we keep. As we mature and grow into our authentic selves we must make our own choices, form our own beliefs, and establish our own values. While we may select some of the things we learned as children…there are other things that we must reject. People, even our parents may have shared their pain bodies….and the negative energy that goes with them, but we cannot take those experiences and that energy as our own. We must make our own choices and listen to our own hearts.
It’s important to have family, friends, and associates that you can share your life with and learn from. It is equally important to ensure that you choose your wisdom council well. We must choose to get our advice from people whose lives in some way represent the goals that we have for ourselves. Listen to people who are for the most part positive, loving, compassionate, and smart. Listen to people whose intentions are pure and who stand for the greater good. Don’t listen to people who find fault with everything…..because the critic is convinced that the chief purpose of sunshine is to cast shadows. The critics life is loveless….while the life of those who encourage others is full of love and magic.
Stephen R. Covey said “Insecure people think that all reality should be amenable to their paradigms. They have a high need to clone others, to mould them over into their own thinking. They don’t realize that the very strength of the relationship is in having another point of view. Sameness is not oneness; uniformity is not unity. Many people have not really experienced even a moderate degree of synergy in their family life. They’ve been trained and scripted into defensive and protective communications or into believing that life or other people can’t be trusted.”