Happy Wednesday. Have an awesome day. Enjoy.
Today’s Challenge ~ Deliver feedback in a way that builds the self esteem and self confidence of people.
Always do your best…….when you lose in life, don’t lose the lesson. We are not perfect beings…. and our lives are not perfect either. We do make mistakes, and errors in judgement, and we will misunderstand something and act on it. We all do it, so why do we hold ourselves to the impossible standard of being perfect? Then we teach it to our children. The way to learn about resilience and personal growth is to subscribe to the principle of fall down seven times, get up eight. But as you are getting back up on your feet, pause and reflect. What did you learn? What will you do differently as a result of your lessons? How will you show humility and share your learning? In these moments we must park our egos and lean in to ourselves with love. We must hear the lessons as they whisper to us and support us in living our best life.
Humility allows us to hold the mirror up and to see what others see, and hear what others hear from us. If we do not hold the mirror up ourselves; then people will hold it up for us. Perhaps they will do so skilfully, perhaps not. When people deliver feedback to you in a mean spirited way, take the 2% truth from that message but don’t allow their harsh words to sink in. For those words can do the most harm if we believe them. Do not feel defeated…know that mistakes are only minor, a temporary setback that you can learn from if you let yourself. So hear the tough messages in a loving way and then govern yourself accordingly; and always remember, you will not defeat tomorrow’s difficulties by worrying; you will only drain today of its strength and opportunity.
Tracey Jackson said “We spend so much time defending our mistakes, hiding from our mistakes, and never just looking at “em and going, whoa this is me. This is me. This is my mistake. I’m going to clean up my side of the street.” And we do something that I call the emotional Sherpa. We carry around so much baggage of all the stuff we’ve done. And we carry it around and it’s heavy, and we unload it onto others, which is completely unfair. A mistake is our best teacher if you just take it and go, “I’m not a bad person. I made a mistake, and I’ve learned a lesson.” And any day you learn a lesson is a great day.”
By Lisa Scott ~ Executive/Life Coach