Happy Monday. Start your week off well, have an awesome day. Enjoy.
Today’s Challenge ~ Don’t make assumptions, ask questions so you know the truth.
Always do your best….don’t make assumptions. The most important work we will do as a human being is to make a place that belongs to us, a structure composed of our own moral code. Not the code that some will try and impose on us, but the one that tells us on a visceral level what we need to do in any given moment. Some people are so full of judgement, they believe that all they need to do is look at a situation and make an assumption; and that becomes the truth. No matter if those assumptions have no basis in fact, those who are inclined towards judging the people around them, believe their assumptions are right. Then worse than that, they go and tell their story to whomever will listen, as if it were the truth. Making assumptions is a weakness.
It is a need to be right, and to be in control of the narrative. Here is the problem with that thinking and behaviour; making assumptions, is about making things up. It is about telling a story the way you want to tell it, versus asking questions so that you can understand the truth. Making assumptions in life, leads to drama and a lack of trust. An ethical and evolved life entails telling the truth about ourselves and allowing others to tell the truth about themselves. Always remember when you make assumptions, you are telling stories….you are eroding your own integrity. We all see life as we are in it…..don’t impose your life experience on someone else. Every day is an opportunity to move in the direction of our highest intention…and to recognize, vulnerability is strength.
Don Miguel Ruiz said The whole world of control between humans is about making assumptions and taking things personally. Our whole dream of hell is based on that….Because we are afraid to ask for clarification, we make assumptions, and believe we are right about the assumptions; then we defend our assumptions and try to make someone else wrong. It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption, because assumptions set us up for suffering. The way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions. Make sure the communication is clear. If you don’t understand, ask. Have the courage to ask questions until you are clear as you can be, and even then do not assume you know all there is to know about a given situation. Once you hear the answer, you will not have to make assumptions because you will know the truth.
By Lisa Scott ~ Executive Life Coach