Always do your best……acknowledge your feelings. Maybe you were taught that emotions don’t fix problems, action does. As a child, anytime you felt tears or sadness you were quickly admonished and reminded that you have to take action to make your way out of life’s bad weather. This is partly true, but we need to be clear that feelings buried never die. They sub-consciously keep making all of our choices and therefore they influence the actions we are willing to take in any given situation. So if the strategies you were given as a child involved pushing your feelings back inside and soldiering on without ever acknowledging them; you carry within you significant pain bodies. While our emotions alone will not solve things; they can act as a guidance system to us in our hour of need.
Our emotions give us an indication of our state of mind. With awareness we can see when we are being overly dramatic, or unrealistic in our read of what is happening. We can adjust the course; we can think outside of our heads, and we can choose more realistic thoughts and feelings that will help us to find our way through. If we do not allow those feelings to surface then we train our bodies to be in a constant state of fight or flight. We miss the cues, we miss the opportunity to pause, reflect, and choose. Acknowledging your feelings is way of showing self-love; gentle reflection is the ultimate path to healing ourselves. Much of life’s turmoil is created by those who insist on taking you out of yourself….while often the peace that we seek is only found by getting inside ourselves. Namaste
Cheryl Strayed said “It’s folly to measure your success in money or fame. Success is measured only by your ability to say yes to these two questions. Did I do the work I needed to do? Did I give it everything I had? This isn’t a spotless life, there is much work ahead my immaculate peach. You can’t fake the core. The truth that lives there will eventually win out. It’s a god we must obey, a force that inevitably brings us to our knees. It asks eternally: Will you do it later or will you do it now?”
By Lisa Scott Executive Life Coach